Various other scriptures speak in strong terms that a wife should be obey/reverence/respect/submit to her husband. Many ladies who have come to wearing a headcovering or have at least studied on the issue, realize they are supposed to let their husband lead.
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body” (Ephesians 5:23).
However, what I would like to talk about isn't really outright disobedience. It is more like purposefully or willfully irritating your beloved. I think most have done so at one point.
I mean when you decide to go and do something that you know full well your husband will not be happy with. He may not have issued a directive one way or the other. It may simply be doing something you know in your heart it will displease him.
I am not trying to say a wife can't make decisions or is incapable of such. There are certainly things a husband may delegate to his wife's domain and authority. If that is something fine with him...awesome. That is not what I am talking about either.
What I mean is a most basic consideration of another human being. Treat others how you wish to be treated. Be kind, be loving, be selfless. Put the one you love, before yourself. Think of what will please his heart. Think of what will bless him, rather than vex him. It is not a fruit of the spirit to intentionally vex people, spouse or not. If you wouldn't want it done to you, then don't do it to him.
I see sisters treat their husbands in ways they'd never treat a friend or a fellow church member. This is your beloved. Your special love. Surely we sisters should hold a higher standard in how we treat our very mates. Another are of concern is how you speak of your mate as well. Do you speak to others about him positively? Do you betray private information? Do you lift his name rather than trash it to your friends?
Lift his name, don't ruin his reputation. Do not lie of course, but do look to the positive things about him. Speak kindly of him that his name may garner respect. Talebearing is sinful no matter who it is about. Are you doing this about your husband? God forbid. Again...treat him how you yourself wish to be treated.
These things include when he treats you with less kindness than he should. We should always strive to treat others kindly, showing ample love and forgiveness. This is our witness to all! The scripture says a wife can win her husband to salvation when she follows a Godly path.
When you go about the little things in life, think of him. When you speak to others of him, chose your words carefully. Ask yourself...is what I am about to do or say pleasing to God first and foremost? If it passes that vital test, then ask.... Is it pleasing to my husband? Will it bless and edify him? Will it vex and potentially hurt him? Will it discredit his feelings in favor of your own?
Ponder these things prayerfully my dear sisters in Christ. May we all resolve to have fruits of the spirit in dealing with all relationships and people.