Saturday, December 29, 2012

Praises to God!!! Evan was found!!!

Evan was found last night and his family is making a drive from Alabama to Flordia to pick him up!!!!  Such wonderful news!!  Pray for their safety as they travel!!

Thank you for your prayers!!!  :-)

Thursday, December 27, 2012

Update on Evan

I just wanted to let folks know real quick they still have not found Evan.  Here is an updated picture.  there IS a kidnapping warrant out for his father.  They have not issued an amber alert, but they have tried and thus far it hasn't been allowed.

Be aware, some news articles are not reflecting the correct information.  In fact one newspaper just printed a lot of incorrect things and the family is pretty worried that it will hinder/delay a safe return home for Evan.  www.dailyhome.com is the one who printed a lot of incorrect things.  If you have time, please politely email them or comment to ask for a retraction/correction.  Continue to share Evan's pics on facebook or however you can.  And lastly, don't forget to pray over it all.  (**update, they have since said they intend to print a retraction/correction and said they were given the inaccurate information initially)

Oh as a side note, and unrelated to the above...I wanted to say that due to traveling during the holidays and as soon as we got home the family all started getting sick....(currently I sound like a frog), I am behind on a lot of things.  In particular I have quite a few emails I have not gotten to reply to yet.  I am so sorry.  I will try to get to that as quick as I can, but please be aware it may be a few days as I have many things at home I am terribly behind on.  i.e. Laundry is a moutain worthy of being named.  LOL 

Blessings in Christ!

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Please consider giving to a fund for unemployeed families

A couple days ago I posted that I intended to have a headcovering raffle and to enter you had to make donations to a fund for a couple unemployed families I know.  However I deleted the post because Paypal hit me with restrictions on my account because it was a rules violation.  I wrote them and they provided clarification.

They said I may proceed to collect donations. However, I am NOT allowed to do so with the raffle method. That is fine with me, I was just trying to do what I could to help boost donations for the cause. So I put the donation button back out on my site. It has to be a free and clear donation. Anything can help, as even folks giving little amount can add up quickly if enough people do so.

I  know many were perhaps distrustful of it all or maybe even of me? But all I can do is try my best to carry through with this. For what is it worth, I do give my word that 100% of the money collected is going to be used for those in need. I have NO intention to keep any of it.

Even if you are unable to donate, please don't be shy about sharing about it. The more who know, the better. The details and the link to donate are on the homepage of my site. Thank you for your time and attention.

Please visit www.covered4him.com to make a donation.

***This particular fund raiser has ended and the funds collected were distributed anonymously.  The names and addresses of the families were kept private as to avoid embarassment.  They were also were unaware of being on the list themselves.  It was a surprise for them and hopefully they have no clue as to where funds came from.  This was meant as purely for God's glory. ***

Fruits of the spirit as ACTIONS

 
 How are we doing as believers? Something I struggle with is being timid and shy. Sometimes I let it hinder me where I should not. Sometimes I am too skeptical of people and their intentions. I am realizing there is a degree of wisdom in that, but it can be done to a fault as well. Today I thank God He has allowed me to expose some of my sinful ways, in hopes of correcting them.

We each have various struggles in our lives and walks. Do we let them hinder us in how we treat others? Are we content to sit and keep the pews warm? Are you trying to use the talents and gifts God has blessed you with to help others? We will not all be able to do the same things, but we should be doing more and thinking about ourselves a lot less. There is enough people focused on "self". We who believe in a mighty God, need to be showing a diffferent way.

Be selfless, loving, giving, kind, etc. Put the fruits of the spirit into practice and ACTIONS....not just happy thoughts you keep to yourself.

 New International Version (NIV)

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
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Ask youself, how can I make these into actions?.... and put them into practice. Have a blessed day in the Lord ya'll!

The below pic was taken from Facebook, I do not know who originally shared or created it.  I think it creates a lot of food for thought.  Perhaps it was even meant to be a stab at Christians, I don't know.  I think it is good to think about the message in it.

 

Saturday, December 8, 2012


If you are a seamstress and are willing to sew modest clothing for others, please let me know!!

I am updating the links on my website... www.covered4him.com and I am going to create a little area with links for not just those who have a site or store, but any seamstress willing to sew modest clothing for others. Basically I am making a little advertisement area for seamstresses for this particular niche.

You might wonder why I am doing this. I am only willing to sew coverings at this point as I don't want to make the time and monetary commitment clothing requires. However, folks often ask me where they can find seamstresses who will sew custom modest dresses. I am most often asked for plus size sewing needs especially.
 So if you want to be listed, give me the necessary detail. Keep it to a few sentences, but make sure you give me your email/contact information. If I have missed any of you in the regular links area and you already have a relevant/related website or store, please let me know on those as well. Thanks!

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Condemnation more than Edification?

Something on my heart I wanted to share.  I agree, we Christians are called to admonish one another in certain situations.  It must be done carefully and in love always.  It is good to sharpen one another, if done in the right spirit.

However, I believe there is a serious imbalance if we spend the majority of our time pointing out the sins of other Christians. 

Do we constantly think about the details of what we don't like about every other person, denomination, etc.? 

Are most of words we speak ones of condemnation and annoyance with our brethern in Christ? 

Perhaps we should spend more time in humility, focusing on improving our own walk along the narrow path.  It is an easy trap to fall into.  We see flaws in others far more easily than ourselves. 

Remember some of the harshest words of rebuke Christ gave were toward the spiritual pride of the Pharisees.  Spiritual pride is exceedingly dangerous.  Remember the death we all deserve.  Remember the precious grace we are given. 

In all the admonishments flying about, please don't forget to edify and uplift too.  :-) 

Luke 18:9-14

The Parable of the Pharisee and the Tax Collector

9 Also He spoke this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and despised others: 10 “Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax collector. 11 The Pharisee stood and prayed thus with himself, ‘God, I thank You that I am not like other men—extortioners, unjust, adulterers, or even as this tax collector. 12 I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I possess.’ 13 And the tax collector, standing afar off, would not so much as raise his eyes to heaven, but beat his breast, saying, ‘God, be merciful to me a sinner!’ 14 I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other; for everyone who exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.”

Thursday, November 29, 2012

Small businesses

I wanted to make a quick post today to talk about something I don't often do.  I want to spread the word for a couple of my friends with their small business.  Part of the reason is because I think some of their things would make excellent Christmas presents!  I know I love to buy homemade items or support folks who are working hard for their families!

In no particular order... :-)
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First my friend Jennifer has been making soaps and keychains.  I even seen her post a very beautiful hair stick she had lovingly made.  You can find her items on yardseller here is a link to one of the items...

https://yardsellr.com/for_sale/new-handmade-kumihimo-spiral-key-chain-7496366

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Next is friend and sister in Christ... Sarah B., she makes some seriously awesome lip balms and hand balms that are natural.  I have used them and I adore them.  Here is a link to her family's page.  You can email her if you want to purchase.

http://shepherdshillhomestead.com/category/the-store/

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Finally, another sister Sarah E. and her family have a new business helping to sell Shelf Reliance products.  Basically stuff that is very shelf stable for those who are trying to always be prepard for anything.  If you are trying to live offgrid, or if you are just a prepardness person a la Doomsday Preppers style :-)  this stuff is great.  Personally I have not used it, (yet) but given the funds and space I would totally.  I do believe it is important to stock as much food supply as reasonable for your family.
Www.fidelisfarms.shelfreliance.com
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Also another facebook friend, Tonya is a fellow seamstress and sews diapers, covers, wetbags, etc.  She runs her business page off of facebook mostly.  I have seen so many people speak well of her work.

https://www.facebook.com/Kittystop2bottomdiapersnmore?fref=ts

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Sister Leslie makes some natural healing salves that many of my other friends seem very excited about.  She also is using facebook to advertise her hard work.
https://www.facebook.com/#!/MamasHealingSalve?fref=ts
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My facebook friend and sis in Christ Heidi has a site...
http://heidisvarietystore.com/

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If you happen to live local to Hebron, OH...my sister in law Dawn makes some amazing cupcakes.  They are not diet friendly, but they are absolutely wonderful.  :-P
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And last, but certainly not least...this business is not one that you can mail order from.  It is a friend who does remodeling and they travel all over to do so.  So if you are in the market for something like that, these are good trustworthy folk....

https://www.facebook.com/LandmarkRemodeling?fref=ts
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Anyway, I just wanted to take a minute to get a little word out.  I figured it was a good time of the year to do so, plus is just plain love them and I pray they each do well. 

Hopefully you enjoy looking through the links.  If I left any friends out it was unintentional.  I wasn't necessarily trying to cover everyone, I just wanted to do the ones that God laid on my heart. 

Have a super blessed day!!!

Sunday, November 18, 2012

Thank you for joining me on blogspot!

I am moving my written articles here today.

They have been on my main website for a long time under the  www.covered4him.com  domain.

However, I want to break the written articles off into it's own area, as it is far more convenient to do writing here within a blog.  :-)  I am hoping it makes it easier to share things as God lays them on my heart. 

Some of you already know I also have the youtube account where I have a lot of things like this in video format, plus the sewing and weight loss videos.  I may start incorporating the individual videos here as well when I do them.  In fact, here is the video I just did announcing the change to using blogspot!  :-)



Basically, I am just trying to better organize my online time. Hopefully this works out well!

Have a blessed day!!!

Fear Your Husband?

Should a wife fear her husband??!!! Shocking thought huh?! I don't mean fear as in afraid of being beaten to death. But a proper respectful, reverencing fear? I chose those words since folks clearly use them as alternate translations. The thing is, are they all really the same? Or is one slightly further than the other. You study and decide what the scriptures are saying. Make note how more modern translations use respect. While old ones use reverence. There there is the root meaning(see article below). Hummmm.......something to chew on I believe.

Here is a short blog entry by a friend... Joanne Smith
It appears on her blog: Narrow is the Way
http://fewtherebethatfindit.blogspot.com/

I wanted to share it here as well because it is something I had noticed as well. Actually to be accurate I knew a possible translation was "fear", but I had not realized that all of the other instances had been translated as such. It is food for thought on the path of learning the proper perspective of submission to one's husband. Sister Joanne kindly allowed me to share it here as well.



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Phobeō / φοβέω

This is me, thinking out loud. Just thought I'd share it with others this time.

The Greek word Phobeō / φοβέω (Strong's #5399) is pronounced fo-be'-ō and is in the New Testament nearly 100 times. Here is the breakdown [for the KJV]:

62 times it is translated into the English word 'fear' 'feared' 'feareth' 'fearing'
23 times it is translated into 'be afraid'
5 times it is translated into 'be afraid of'
1 time it is translated into 'reverence'

Then there is also #5401 phobos / φόβος pronounced fo'-bos which is in the NT nearly 50 times: 41 times as 'fear' and three times as 'terror'. It is also coupled with 5399 once as 'afraid'.

And there is #5400 phobētron / φόβητρονpronounced fo'-bā-tron which is in the NT once as 'fearful sights'.

So ... what is my point?

Many months ago I was writing an article about wives submitting to their husbands. This word 'reverence' came up in one of the verses to women, so I looked it up in the Strong's. The English word 'reverence' is used in the NT 6 times ... in 3 different gospels accounting the same parable (the parable of the husbandmen and vineyard 'they will reverence my son'). In Hebrews it's used twice, both in chapter 12 ... and then of course it's used in Ephesians 5:33 - let the wife see that she reverence her husband.

I noticed that the word 'reverence' here was a different Greek word than the others. I am no Greek scholar and I do not trust in Strong's definitions entirely, so when I look up a particular word, I do not just assume Strong's has the right definition of the word. Instead, I like to see how that SAME Greek word is used in other parts of the bible - I think this gives a better picture of the use of the word in question. The word 'reverence' here in Ephesians is the Greek word "phobeo" ... and yes ... this is the ONLY time this word is translated as 'reverence' instead of 'fear' or 'be afraid' or 'terror'. Another thing I like to do is interchange the words and see if any or all of the English words used for one Greek word will fit in the different verses the word is used in context ... in almost every case, the word reverence did not make sense if it was used to replace 'fear', 'afraid' or 'terror'.

So here is the Greek word used almost 150 times in the NT. Each time it is the English word 'fear' or something very similar. One time it is the English word 'reverence' and conveniently that one time is in regards to the husband/wife relationship. Why is that? My personal thought - our modern day perverted ways of thinking cannot fathom the thought of a wife fearing her husband in that way. Sarah feared Abraham and called him lord. She submitted to him in everything. She trusted in the Lord for the one He put over her and she is the only woman specifically pointed out as an example for us in the NT.

I cannot imagine very many wives calling their husband 'lord' or even submitting to them as the scriptures say they are supposed to.

Well, those are my thoughts.

Pressuring your Husband

This email was receved from a friend....I asked her permission to share it here so it can be edifying to others as well. She did wish to remain anon.

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"I just wanted to share this with you sweet ladies as I had and "ah-ha" moment this week...and I can't believe I didn't "get" this sooner. I suppose hindsight is 20/20 as they say.

Anyway, as I've told you my husband works from home all days but Mondays. In today's economy, we both feel so blessed that he has a full time job and the fact that he can be home so much is just an added blessing. But of course, like any other family, we have a budget and an ongoing list of "needs" for the kids or house or vehicle...you ladies know what I mean, I'm sure. That list of things that sometimes gets whittled down slowly or sometimes stalls out for a while before you're able to pick something off of it again to take care of. I just look at this as a normal part of life when you have a family and home.

So, for the past several months, I knew that my husband was looking, quite actively, for extra work on the side. I didn't really give it much thought but would have preferred that things stay the same, even with a list of things we need to do that we don't quite get around to that often. Because I like where we're at and the type of schedule he gets to keep. But being the good submissive wife that I want to be, I didn't say anything and listened when he would talk about leads for a second job and side work. I tried to support where I could, even though I wasn't personally all hopped up on the idea.

Then this past week we were talking and that ever present "list" and then he was talking about continuing to find another job (on top of his already full time job) and it was like a light bulb went off in my head! When I look at that list of things we need to take care of, I see it as perfectly fine and normal to whittle it down a little bit at a time as we can and not stress about it beyond that. I guess I have an attitude of let's just eat that elephant one bite at a time. But when my husband looks at that list he sees all the things that he thinks he is supposed to be providing but isn't! Then it dawned on me....I had never actually told him that I was perfectly content with our life just like it is, ongoing list and all! (Insert smiley doing a face palm here.) So I talked to him and told him that I don't see that list as things he's not providing, I just see it as a normal part of being a homeowner and being parents. That I'm not one bit troubled by the fact that we can't take care of all of it in one fell swoop. And that I'm perfectly content with our life and what and how he provides right now. That I really don't think he needs to beat the pavement to find another job because I feel very well taken care of by how he is already doing things.

I honestly didn't realize before this week that when he and I look at the need-to-do's, we were seeing it from two completely different points of view. That I was seeing something we could work on over time but that he was seeing it as a blow to his ability to provide. And now I feel a bit ridiculous that I didn't see this sooner. So I guess what I'm saying is if there is something that you think your guy just knows without you verbalizing it to him....he just may not have a clue! I've certainly learned through this to not assume things in that department anymore!"

Torah Keeping Christianity

 
A deeply personal testimony regarding Keeping Torah as a professing Christian
Written 5-21-2010
It is time I shared something as I feel heavily led to do so. Part of me is reluctant as I know it many will passionately disagree with this writing. It has to do with Torah observance. Some of you may not even know what I am speaking about. You may think that it is for the “Jewish people” only. However, you may not realize that a large and very much growing crowd of Christians are changing their ways to keep Torah as well as attempting to keep their faith in Christ at the same time. The basic idea is that the Old Testament laws are not done away with and we are still required to keep it as a fruit of salvation.
Depending on your Biblical knowledge and background you may say that sounds crazy. You might agree. It depends on where you are at in your walk and experience. I can say I have seen it both ways in my life. For a period of about a 1 to 1 ½ years, several years ago, my husband I attempted Torah observance. First I should add that it was I who introduced and convinced my dear husband into the concept. That alone was a misstep as it is not my place and role to play Miss spiritual leader of the home.
Anyway, we did do this. In fact we were most passionately convinced it was the correct thing to do. So much so, we changed how we lived our lives in a major way. We observed Sabbath in a strict sense. We observed it on the 7th day(Saturday). We didn’t eat ‘unclean’ meats. We observed physical cleanliness laws as best we a knew how. We celebrated the Holy Days of old. We were learning about New Moon celebrations etc. Many things.
We, especially I, was obsessed with learning how to do things properly and orderly. Zeal was my best friend and I was FULL of it. I wanted so badly to do right by God. I was very willing to make such huge changes for Him if it be pleasing to Him. Speaking of God, for a while we also only ever addressed Him as Yahweh and His Son as Yah’shua.
Our lives were greatly and massively impacted. It impacted our families as well. My parents in particular were extremely worried. They tried many times to talk sense into us. But we were convinced that while we knew they meant well, we just didn’t agree and were bound and determined down that path. Bless their hearts I know they were greatly grieved though.
I know some people may say, how can you miss the many scriptures in Romans and Galatians that speak on the topic!! However, I can tell you there are very strong logical arguments in favor of Torah keeping. Largely it is based on Matthew 5 where Christ speaks of the law not being done away with until heaven and earth pass. The boiled point of the argument is any scripture that speaks of the law not being required is merely talking about salvation only. Those who keep Torah will usually say that those scriptures are being twisted and do not refer to keeping the law once salvation in Christ has come. They agree justification is in Christ. But maintain that once we come to the faith we must keep Torah/OT Law. If you carefully look at the scriptures you can actually read many things in this way. I am not going to go into indepth arguments with tons of scripture whether or not to keep Torah. This is meant to be just sharing my experience so I will share what affected me most.
There is one particular scripture that opened my eyes. My dear Baptist Papaw mentioned it on his deathbed as he too was most worried about us as well. Him trying to reach me, shook me in a different way. For some reason, I believe it was the Holy Spirit opening my heart, I truly listened to Papaw and the verse he told me to read. Thank God I did. I will include some scripture before and after for context. Notice particular the point in bold.
16Now to Abraham and his seed were the promises made. He saith not, And to seeds, as of many; but as of one, And to thy seed, which is Christ.
17And this I say, that the covenant, that was confirmed before of God in Christ, the law, which was four hundred and thirty years after, cannot disannul, that it should make the promise of none effect.
18For if the inheritance be of the law, it is no more of promise: but God gave it to Abraham by promise.
19Wherefore then serveth the law? It was added because of transgressions, till the seed should come to whom the promise was made; and it was ordained by angels in the hand of a mediator.
20Now a mediator is not a mediator of one, but God is one.
21Is the law then against the promises of God? God forbid: for if there had been a law given which could have given life, verily righteousness should have been by the law.
22But the scripture hath concluded all under sin, that the promise by faith of Jesus Christ might be given to them that believe.
23But before faith came, we were kept under the law, shut up unto the faith which should afterwards be revealed.
24Wherefore the law was our schoolmaster to bring us unto Christ, that we might be justified by faith.
25But after that faith is come, we are no longer under a schoolmaster.
26For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus.
27For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.
28There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.
29And if ye be Christ's, then are ye Abraham's seed, and heirs according to the promise.
With that particular scripture I can NOT make the argument that after faith in Christ we are still required to keep the law. There are many other scriptures that speak about the law, but this one was particularly ‘black and white’ to me and finally opened my eyes.
When we were trying to follow Torah we were consumed with little else. Our zeal was for learning and trying to live God’s old ways. It was a fire-filled passionate zeal too. So much that our ears and eyes were closed to everything but that. It was more than a focus but an obsession indeed. It was also work/labor. It isn’t easy to do those things. We slowly moved from living by faith, but to living by works. We didn’t realize it, but we had. We were earning our way, but we swore we weren’t. It was become a burden no doubt. But in a weird way, we were proud of our burden. Our attitude was very much similar to that of the Pharisee. We were happy we knew the way, and felt sorry for the silly people who wouldn’t open their eyes to what we thought was the truth. Ah, the sin of pride creeps in so easily.
When the scales fell from my eyes after reading the scripture in Galatians, I fell. In fact I fell from a very high place to the lowest point of faith I ever had ever been to in my life. I had been so sure. So very sure I wasn’t wrong. Now my eyes were opened and I read everything differently. I felt like God had abandoned me during that time and allowed me to screw up badly. I realized that in my attempt to grow close to Him, I had actually grown far. I felt alone, cold and dark. There but for the grace of God, go I. And that fits my life at that point. I could have easily turned from the faith at that point. Part of me wanted to. But the fear of a mighty and powerful God and the Holy Spirit who was still within me, kept me from making the ultimate foolish mistake. I didn’t turn from God. I took some time to re-ground a bit and I stayed in the faith.
My faith was literally as small as a mustard seed. But praise God it was enough. Eventually I recovered and when I did, I felt so free. Free as a bird with wings. My faith was back but in a new way that was held an experience that was so deeply impacting to my core that mere words will never really express it. I seen the Word in a new and fresh light. My understanding is so different now. My experience forever changed me and gave me an understanding I am blessed for.
I know that many who keep Torah are like me. They are just truly, trying their best within their own knowledge to serve God as best as they know how. However, I fear for them. I fear that when their eyes are opened, they might fall. I fear that if they don’t open their eyes, they will slowly remove themselves from the faith and grace that God has so kindly bestowed with His precious Son.
I know this may not reach anyone, as those who keep Torah may consider me pretty well near a blasphemer for speaking this testimony. However, I pray that person one may benefit from my experience in any small way. This wasn’t easy to write, nor did I relish doing so. I felt at this point, I need to share my experience for what it is worth. May God open our eyes that we may all follow His narrow path, by faith. May the fruit of salvation cause us to be in obedience to His mighty Word. However, may our obedience never arise from our own flesh or sense of self-accomplishment.
For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: not of works, lest any man should boast.
So you have committed to wearing dresses all the time, but are wondering how to it perhaps? Maybe you are just considering taking the step but need more information. Perhaps you are just curious to see what else I am blathering about on this site. :-) Well here are a few tips for those who are wearing dresses full time. Perhaps full time is an overstatement, as I assume you will shower once in a while...LOL.
Dress Wearing Tips
Most women who have went to dresses only will tell you the number one thing to make dress wearing comfortable and practical is also Biblically required....MODESTY. Only when they are long and loose is this practical for an everyday thing.
My personal favorite tip, PANTALETTES! Can't wear dresses without them personally. You can easily make them by just cutting off a loose pants pattern or lengthen a shorts patterns. If you are truly desperate, take some old pants and cut them off, no one need know but you. You can find them on many modest clothing sites. I may offer them eventually. They are so valuable for comfort, plus they are an extra layer of modesty.
Many ladies are concerned about wearing dresses and being cold in the winter. No need to be. Just put on some thermal underwear under your dresses. Or even easier still, sweat pants work great. You will be even toastier than before you went to dresses. Fleece and flannel slips are also good choices too. Again if your dress is properly modest and loose, then you will have no issue concealing these layers.
Shoes are a big reason why many ladies don't like the thought of dresses only. If I felt I had to wear dress shoes all of the time I wouldn't like it either. There is a simple answer. Don't. Wear tennis shoes, crocs, or whatever is comfortable. There are many options. I suggest finding solid colors such as black or white so you can keep it simple. No it isn't the perfectly society loved thing, but neither is wearing dresses all the time. :-) If you must wear a dress shoe, then chose a comfortable flat or something with no more than a 1" heel. If your feet are uncomfortable you will be too.
Consider changing the panty hose for opaque tights/knee highs for an extra level of modesty. I especially recommend this if you don't wear ankle length dresses. If you do, it isn't so much of an issue. I keep them at ankle length and just wear black socks and black shoes, pretty comfortable.
Headcovering Tips and Thoughts
Not every woman's head shape and hair type are the same. This can and will affect the types, sizes, fabrics, and other factors in finding a veiling that is perfectly suited for you. You may need to experiment to find what works best for you. Please do not feel discouraged if covering is hard at first because of this. It might just take you finding what works best for you. Give it time and try many things.
I personally find pinned/clipped on kapp types of coverings stay on very well and are comfortable. You may find a tied on veil does better for you.
A person also needs to realize if they have an unusually large or small head that will affect not only the fit of a covering, but the look. The style may look a little different, etc.
Some Various Ways to Secure Headcoverings
  • Clip Buttonholes can be sewn to the underside of many styles of coverings. This hides them away, and still keeps the veiling on securely.
  • A nice semi-concealed way to secure your coverings is to use matching bobby pins or clips. i.e. white bobby pins* on a white veiling.
  • Some folks use the hook side of velcro to the underside of veilings and it will catch into the hair and help hold a veiling in place. I tried that myself and often it ripped at my hair. Perhaps it would work better for another hair type.
  • Using straight sewing pins to pin veilings on is a traditional method for Mennonite and Amish style kapps. This is pretty easy and is no where near as hard as it may sound. I have an page on doing this as well.
  • Simply selecting a tied on style may work just fine for some people. (ie a simple kerchief) My hair is kind of slick and often they slide off in my case, unless it ties under the chin.
  • Using larger veilings similar to what Muslim ladies are often known for wearing will enable you to use wrapping methods to keep them pretty secure. Though some of those methods also entail clips, depending on what look you are going for.
  • Underscarves are another option I can think of. They can provide traction for larger veils to stay on better and can be hugely helpful. They also add additional coverage, especially in the forehead area.
* If you have trouble finding white bobby pins, there are multiple options. They can be purchased online at various covering sites, ordered through the GVS catalog, or I have also seen them at Sally Beauty if you have one of those near you. The GVS catalog option is the cheapest by far as long as you happen to be ordering from them anyway to offset the shipping costs. Their catalog can be obtained by calling 1-800-398-2494 or emailing sales@gvsdis.com
Covering at Night
If you happen to cover at night this can be challenging to keep it on. Some simply don't try, they just leave the covering beside them at night and if they wake up and wish to pray they pop it on and do so.
Large veils are nice on cold nights to snuggle into. They sometimes can be hard to keep on. But wrapping up in them can go a long way.
To keep a covering on all night, I find a tied on soft cloth kapp does a decent job. Obviously you won't want to use a stiff mesh kapp for this. Under the chin ties do keep it on more securely.
So far, I haven't been a fan of using a mob style cap, but many ladies do love them. Those are usually staying on with elastic. Unless your elastic is a perfect fit, it will slip off easily. Too tight and they just aren't very comfortable.
All in all, I am sure many other tips could be added here, and in time I may add more as I think of them. Remember things that I love/dislike in a covering may be the opposite for you. The key is not giving up and keep on trying till you are comfortable. You soon will be.

Overcoming Infertility

This was written by me in response to a Keepers At Home* request for stories on overcoming infertility. Though I don't think it was ever chosen for printing, but I thought I would share this testimony here as well. Perhaps it will help another sister.

written 07-06-08
It was recently requested that if we have experience with overcoming infertility that we share about it. I have PCOS, for those who don’t know what that is, it is polycystic ovarian syndrome. It is more and more common it seems. Many probably have it or know a little about it. It can make getting pregnant most difficult as your hormonal levels are out of balance. Often one experience irregular or no ovulation, and thus no regular monthly.
I have been married 10 years and I was 29 years old before being blessed with my first on Sept 4, 2007. Little Daniel James seemed truly a miracle to me. Though I had always desperately wanted children, my husband and I hadn’t actively “tried” for children that entire 10 years of marriage. We weren’t always of the same biblical walk we believe in today. By the time my husband and I were both at a place spiritually to allow God’s will to happen with children no matter what, I had a doctor tell me it would not happen without extensive fertility treatments. He also said if I didn’t get pregnant before age 30 it would probably never happen at all.
While there were the times we had not allowed the possibility of pregnancy, even through those years I had wanted a child most desperately. That need only grew and grew the older I became. I felt incomplete as a woman. I was jealous of other ladies who seemed to have such fruitful wombs. I tried not to be, but it was still a sin I struggled with frequently. When this doctor told me such wretched news and it ruined nearly all my hopes for a child. I grieved because I did not really believe in forcing it to happen. I felt so defeated because I wanted it so badly. I felt like I could die. How could I live with empty arms?
Eventually I went to another doctor. He disagreed with the previous diagnosis but only to a point. He agreed I had PCOS. However, he said pregnancy was still possible if I could get regulated. He also said that if I didn’t do something to regulate my cycles it could harm me in the long run. If you have no periods it can dramatically increase your cancer risks apparently. Because I didn’t want to take fertility treatments he put me on a special birth control with progesterone temporarily. It was merely meant to make my monthly kick in. It did. But I still didn’t have a baby. I still spent a long time without a child that I wanted so badly.
Finally in December ’06 my monthly stopped again but the pregnancy test was negative. I was devastated because I thought my PCOS was making my hormones de-regulate again. I cried and cried. My husband wanted to know what wrong of course and I told him why I was upset. He became upset as well. He cried with me (he had never really done that over this issue before). He and I prayed together that night. He placed his hand on my tummy and prayed that God would open my womb. He also prayed that if it was not God’s will, then please help us accept it in our hearts.
For the first time, I truly decided to accept God’s will. Furthermore, I decided I would rejoice in His will no matter what the answer was, even if it was no. That was a big step for me. As believers, we often say we accept God’s will, but do we decide to REJOICE in it no matter what? I think it is important that we do.
Little did I know that despite the negative pregnancy test, Daniel was already growing in my belly when my husband placed his hand there. God knew our need before we even asked that night.
I think in my case yes I overcame infertility by having a child. But I truly overcame it when I decided not to allow it to take my joy. One really overcomes infertility when they accept God’s will, no matter what it may be.
12/02/10 P.S. An update to this article is in order. The Summer of 2010 due to an experience with colitis I had, I had an ultrasound done. They seen a cyst on my ovaries and a follow up ultrasound ended up being done. Between those two ultrasounds, my current doctor said my ovaries do not appear polycystic after all. He said all of these years that has been a misdiagnosis. They should have initially done one before ever diagnosing me. They diagnosed me from blood work only and that is incorrect. My insulin resistance due to being type II diabetic (previously I was just pre-diabetic for many years) was the reason for the poor bloodwork. I am leaving this testimony in it's original form as that it the way it happened. Whether God chose to heal the polycystic nature or whether I never really was to start with doesn't matter to me. I think it was a matter of God allowing me to believe that so I could come to the place to really trust Him and His will for my life and womb.

5/20/11 By the way, I am currently 33 years old and I am pregnant again. LOL :-) Due Aug 22, 2011. It is supposed to be a little girl.

*Keepers at Home is a quarterly Anabaptist magazine for ladies that has absolutely just blessed me greatly. I highly recommend it, it is the only subscription I currently have and it is worth every penny to me.

Headcovering Testimony

 

What is this thing on my head? Most people who are familiar with it call it 'the headcovering' or 'prayer veiling'. Some simply say 'the covering'.
Why do I veil/cover my head? Simply put, because I believe God tells me to. I know many do not understand this, but let me begin by giving you the scriptural reference that many today chose to ignore or do not understand.
1 Corinthians 11
1 Be ye followers of me, even as I also am of Christ.
2 Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you.
3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
4 Every man praying or prophesying, having his head covered, dishonoureth his head.
5 But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven.
6 For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered.
7 For a man indeed ought not to cover his head, forasmuch as he is the image and glory of God: but the woman is the glory of the man.
8 For the man is not of the woman: but the woman of the man.
9 Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man.
10 For this cause ought the woman to have power on her head because of the angels.
11 Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord.
12 For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God.
13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?
14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
One fall evening in 2001, my husband was in bed early as he wasn’t feeling well. I was up just simply browsing the net and doing a little Bible study online. I had been growing closer to God at this point in my life. I was praying for God to come into my life more and for the Holy Spirit to come as well. In my marriage, (I was married in 1997), I had always been the dominant one. I had definitely been the one to lead, handle the finances, etc. I was your basic average woman of modern society. However, God slapped me pretty hard that night. My life has changed, my marriage has changed, jobs, friendships… everything has changed.
I came across a website called www.wendysmodestdress.com I don’t even really remember how I got there, but I did. I found it pretty intriguing. I wasn’t sure why she covered her head, so I read her testimony and the scriptural references about it. I was absolutely floored. I had previously read the verses, and had inquired about them. I accepted the explanation that “the covering” was my hair as commonly believed. I seen Wendy’s site, and I thought, well, I guess I have to go disprove this lady’s interpretation. God took about 15 to 20 minutes to show me quickly there was no getting around this. It was pretty black and white. I could obey or not was what I felt. In my spirit I felt God tell me that, “You have been asking me to let you do things for My Kingdom. If you can not obey in this small simple matter, how can I trust you with bigger things.”
Inside, my thoughts were “SMALL MATTER, are you kidding me, Lord?”. That night, I found a shawl and used that to cover my head and pray. It felt very right. When my husband awoke the next morning I told him about what happened. He was quite skeptical that I had read the scriptures correctly. I told him that I wanted his permission and support because the very scripture that speaks on the covering also speaks much about headship within marriage. (see article on submission) He reluctantly agreed to allow me to cover for a few days while he could study the issue. One small hurdle was over, one of the biggest of my life was to come.
I was working outside the home at the time in a office setting at the time. The only scarf I had was a fairly bright shade of a pink one, and I was shy to wear that. So I quickly made a little lace thing to cover part of my hair in the back that day. I felt like everyone looked at me all day. A few odd looks, but no real questions. And in hindsight, I realize now I didn’t get many questions because it just looked like I was having an “odd fashion flair” for the day. The next day, I was a little more brave and wore the pink one. Basically a pink triangle style covering. THAT got some questions going. I did my best to answer them. I was so nervous that day. A few days later my husband came to me and told me he agreed and scripturally, yes, I was to cover my head.
Anyway, eventually I had friends, family and the world to face. Did I mention that I am an extremely shy, introverted person? I may have been dominant in my marriage, but to the world and on the inside I was very, very shy. Putting on that covering was one of the hardest steps of obedience I had ever taken in my life. Modest dressing also followed.
I Timothy 2:11-15
9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;
10 But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.
11 Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
12 But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
13 For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
15 Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.
I began wearing only dresses, and tried to keep them as plain and simple as possible. All of these changes were occurring while I had to face people with this new appearance. I was nervous anytime I had to see anyone, that had not seen my “new look”. I think my friends and family turned out to me much harder as most of them are professing Christians who do not accept that covering is necessary in this modern culture or they feel “the covering” is the hair. I had more opposition from some rather than others, but nothing God hasn’t gotten my husband and I through. I even eventually lost the job I was working, I believe firmly, due to the headcovering. God got us through that too..
The covering has blessed my life greatly. My marriage has changed so much since that day and also I have tried to be obedient to the scriptures regarding submission. While I can certainly still improve, I am a much better wife to my husband. He has blossomed into this wonderful leader in our home, where previously he wasn’t even slightly interested in leading the home as a man is required to do. Our love has grown much deeper though it as well. We both strive to follow God, and have been doing so as best we know how since. I am probably a much better public witness too. It is hard to be in public and have a bad day and grouch at someone out with a headcovering on. It is like putting Jesus bumper stickers on your car, everyone will realize you are a Christian and will be watching you closer. You must remember to act better and improve your witness.
Have I been perfect since I began covering? A loud and resounding, NO! I have even yielded to my vanity a couple of times and removed it for about 2-3 months. All that did was make me miserable inside and I always came back to covering. Another thing it did was create a confusing witness. For that, I am ashamed and repentant. However, I suppose people can see I am human and stumble occasionally.
The covering seems like it should be no big deal when you really think about it, but in today’s society it is a huge deal.
If you are researching this issue and are contemplating wearing one then I can almost guarantee there will be persecution. It will not be easy. Usually you will find, if you are not being persecuted on some level, you probably are not living scripturally. You will possibly lose friends, family, and jobs as I have.
Don’t let me scare you away though. Just know you were warned that is not all “sunshine and flowers”. While it may be hard in society, how much better is it to be right with God? You will gain more blessing than you can imagine by following God’s word and being obedient to it. The peace that comes with obedience is immeasurable.

Reverencing Our Husbands

Please note: This article was originally found on Sister Kimberly's old website (that is now unavailable). However she is not the author. She said it was something she believes she had reposted. If anyone is aware of the true author please let me know so that I may give proper credit. If the true author reads this and has a wish for me to remove this, I will do so. I normally ask before posting another's writings. This is a good article I felt was very much worth sharing.
 
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Ephesians 5:33
Nevertheless, let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife that she reverence her husband.
Do you ever wonder why God put that in there? I did...for a long time, I couldn't figure that one out...Oh, I spent alot of time doing word searches and trying to figure out how the original Greek didn't say exactly what it said but finally God got a hold of me and asked, "When are you going to just take Me at My Word?" OUCH. Not exactly what this Christian Feminist wanted to hear. I didn't grow up in a home where biblical submission was practiced...I really don't think it was known about to be completely honest, so I did come at this from somewhat of a disadvantage. I was raised knowing that "I could do anything a man could do, only better!" So for years after coming to the Lord, I felt that I could still be everything I wanted to be....including the head of my marriage. Now I didn't exactly put it into those words but that is what it was none the less. I tell you this only to assure you that if you are struggling with this area in your life... You are NOT alone!
What I was very surprised and even somewhat incredulous to learn was that while many translations replace the word reverence in this verse with respect, that is not an accurate translation. You see, this word is only used one time in the New Testament and it means exactly that...reverence or reverential awe or fear. That is alot different, at least to me, than respect. Strong's says that it is to be in awe of, to revere exceedingly. My Webster's dictionary says that reverence means a feeling or attitude of deep respect, tinged with awe, veneration. It also means the outward manifestation of this feeling and a gesture indicating deep respect. To venerate means to regard or treat with reverence. To reverence is to treat with deference or reverential obedience. Deference means to show respectful submission and yielding to the judgement, opinion or will of another. WOW....that is important stuff!
There are several verses that elaborate on this such as:
Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
Colossians 3:18
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as is fit in the Lord.
1 Peter 3:1-6
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husband; that if any obey not the word, they also may without a word, be won by the conversation of the wives;
While they behold your chaste converstation coupled with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that of outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of the gold or of putting on of apparel;
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corrupltible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands.
Even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Titus 2:3-5
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love thier husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to the own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
To love is to be profoundly tender towards someone, to have passionate affection for one another. As you can see, love, affection and devotion go hand in hand. I like the definition for devotion as well: profound dedication, earnest attachment. As godly wives, we are to have profound dedication to and earnest attachment to our husbands....God didn't say IF he was a good husband, IF he treated us the way we think he should... but to do as UNTO HIM....to submit to one's husband as UNTO THE LORD....that is a HUGE step of faith. Believe me, I KNOW! I did not want to give over MY RIGHTS to my husband....I was a joint heir, a fellow believer...why did I have to give in? Why does it have to be me? It just didn't seem fair...
What does fair have to do with obedience? What do "my rights" have to do with the laying down of my life and taking up my cross and following Jesus? You know, obedience is easy when it's something we want to do anyways but when it's not....well, it is REALLY hard... but I am here to tell you....it is oh so worth it.
Why did Sarah call Abraham lord? He wasn't the most straight forward fellow. Sarah called him lord because she reverenced him and honored him and in doing so, she honored God. Can we, as His daughters, do any less today? Do you know how God will honor your obedience to His holy word? He will do exceedingly, abundantly, over and above anything you could ask or think!
I have thought so much on how a Christian marriage is a mysterious representation of Christ and His Bride. As Christ's Bride, would you refuse His rule over you? Would you not submit to Christ's leading? How can we represent this to an unbelieving world when we don't show this in our own marriages? Do you reverence your husband in your marriage? Do you eagerly await his return home and make it a special place he desires to come home to? We would never, as believers, refuse Christ and yet here we are blessed with His representation in the form of our husbands, who are the head over us, just as Christ is the head over the church, and we fail to submit to them in godly reverence and love.
I pray that our hearts are open to the conviction of the Holy Spirit....that they would be smitten and that there would be nothing left in our hearts that will not submit to the Word of God.
Again Father, I ask that you forgive me where I have failed over and over, time and again. Forgive me where I have failed and walked according the the world and it's ways. Fill me afresh with your Holy Spirit and help me to be obedient and submissive to Your word. I ask You in the name of Jesus Christ, who walked in total submission to You.....Lord, make me like Jesus....

What does Submission Entail?


God commands a wife to submit to her husband but what does that entail? How will it be evidenced in our lives?
Eph 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
1Pe 3:1-2 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Submission means accepting my husband as he is.
-Before my brother married his fiancée asked my mother for some tried and true advice on making her home a godly and happy one. My mother told her "A wife should make her husband happy, not good. Making a man good is God's job and He is able to do it!"
-Agape Love-- the love God wants to channel through us -- accepts people as they are, unconditionally. "Just as I am without one plea" expresses how God accepts us and that is how a woman is to love and accept her husband. She is to love and submit to him regardless of his problems and faults, just as God deeply loves us, though He hates the sin in our lives. This does not meana wife is niave or condones her husband's faults. But it means a wife accepts her husband in spite of the problems and gives God the opportunity of working in her husband's life and meeting his needs. It does means she is freed from teh pressure and bondage of an unaccepting attitude and is freed to become a channel through which God can work to change her husband. (1 Peter 3:1-6
-True submission means a wife accepts her husband as he is, without applying her own pressure to change him. A woman's dominance may take many forms - from obvious nagging to more subtle, yet stil wrong types of pressure; leaving tracts or other material around for him to read, giving unasked for advice, comparing him to other men, etc.
Why should a woman never overtly try to change her husband?
-Because real, internal change is God's work, not woman’s. Nagging and convincing may bring external relief, but seldom produce genuine change. God does not ask for woman to be an amateur providence, but to allow Him to work in her husband's life. The woman who does not trust God to change her husband and exerts her own pressure instead, is saying that experientially "there is no God" for her in this matter. She has no faith and instead thinks she has to "do it herself" or nothing will happen in her husband's life.
God is able to change the mind of the authority over her. But if a woman interferes with God's process by exerting her own force-- be it by word and action or by stony silence and condemning attitudes, she blocks God's pressure, the one force designed to bring a man to his knees and his Saviour.
- Because this type of pressure destroys harmony and communion with both God and her husband. A husband-pressuring wife is out of the place God created for her, and therefore she is sinning against God and her husband and breaking fellowship with both of them. Remember, we do not sin against our own husbands until we have first sinned against God!
God's line of authority is:
God
Man
Woman
When a woman refuses to obey God and will not fulfill the role he created for her and commands her to tak, she hinders the work of God in her whole family. She becomes a wedge between her husband and God.
God
Woman
Man
-Because a woman's pressure incites a man to rebel and therefore does not work. It may even aggravate the problem rather than bringing change. Why is this so? Because...
1. His wife becomes his conscience. And since man tends to fight his own conscience, he ends up fighting her. Rather than accepting true guilt, he often transfers it into blame aimed at his nagging wife. Allow God the privilege of using inner pressure. (Rom 14:4, Jer 17:9-10)
2. His wife becomes a person in a superior position, sitting in judgment on him. In a very real sense, she usurps his authority. God repeatedly warns against passing judgment on other and having a critical, condemning spirit. If we are prone to finding fault in others, we can be sure that we have never truly seen ourselves. (Mt 7:1-5, Roms 2:1-3, 1 Cor 10:12)
3. His wife becomes a teacher and a mother rather than a lover. When a woman determines to teach and mother a man against his will, she undermines their love relationship together and assumes a position of authority over her husband. ( Eph 5:33, 1 Tim 2:12)
4. In most cases a man knows the problems exist, but he needs and wants his wife to think of his "better side" rather than concentrating on his negative traits. (Phil 4:8) If he doesn't know about the problem, ( a blind spot) then tell him once in the attitude of a servant and learner. Leave the option to change or not up to him (and back up your advice with plenty of prayer).
Since all this is true, what can a wife do the "change" her husband? Is she a helpless, bound spectator? God has placed before her two powerful tools that He longs to use through her to change a man for His Glory.
1. Prayer (I Tim 2:1-2) Not the words, "First of all". Prayer is not a last resort, but the first recourse. Whe we discern a fault or face a problem, our first reaction should be to pray.
2. Real prayer, joined with meditation in God's Word and an obedient heart, gives a woman authority with her husband's authority, God Himself. She should not hesitate to let God know the desires of heart regarding her husband.
3. Prayer takes your eyes off the man, the problem and yourself and puts them on Christ. It allows you to view the man and the problem as instruments of God in your life, thereby removing a source of bitterness. Have you thanked God for your husband's faults? (I Thess 5:18, Eph 5:20) One reason God has allowed these problems to be in his life is to work character in you. (Rom 8:28, 5:3-5 James 1:2-4) Will you take God's perspective and allow Him to give you His reactions? What happens when a woman has the wrong focus? she allows bitterness to enter and take root. Solomon notes the results the results in Proverbs 21:9,19, 27:15, 30:23
4. Prayer allows you the opportunity to give your expectations to God. Rather than expecting changes from your husband, you expect God to work in His Way and Time. This creates a grateful spirit in a woman, both towards God and her husband. No longer does she take her husband's good attitudes and actions for granted. Now these are not expected behavior, but blessings God has given her through her husband. This frees God to work as He chooses; and it also frees her husband from being a prisoner of her expectations.
5. Prayer gives you the privelege of interceding. When God give discernment of a problem, that is His call to intercession, not to criticism and judgmental attitudes. If a man is out of fellowship with God, in a very real sense his wife can "stand in the gap" for her husband. And even when a man is in fellowship, he needs his wife's supporting intercession; for prayer frees God to bless us and prayerlessness limits Him. (James 4:2, Rom 15:30, 11Cor 1:8-11)
6. Prayer changes your attitudes. You cannot truly pray and harbor bitterness or an unforgiving spirit. As you turn your heart toward God, He is free to cleanse and renew your mind and attitudes.
7. Prayer insures that you are in God's will. Prayer, joined with meditation in the Word of God, and an obedient heart, allows you to get to know God and His ways by putting you in communion with Him. The you can truly commit yourself and your family to Him,, putting your home in a place of blessing (I cor 7:14, Proverbs 3:33, Ps 37:5, II time 1:12)
8. Provoke, (stimulate, inspire) your husband to love and good works by maturing in your own relationship with Christ. As God works in your life, He can channel His love and Himself through you in unique and life changing ways to your husband. Allow God to change you, and your husband will change in reaction!
· Momorize I Peter 3:1-6
· Make a list of your expectations from your husbands. Then deliberately give all of these to God and allow Him to give them back to you as He sees fit. Remember, we are to wait on God alone to fulfill our expectations.
· Have you ever committed yourself and your home to God? Ask Him to work in your lfie to create an atmosphere in your home that will provoke your family to love and good works.
· Have you been guilty of unaccepting attitudes and of trying to change your husband through your own pressure? Let God truly convict you about this and begin to work true repentance in your life. Confess your sin to God and your husband. Be sure to prayerfully consider how you will express your thoughts to your husband, being sure to accept your guilt without implying blame on his part.
· Do you accept your Heavenly Bridegroom, Jesus Christ, as He is? Have you ever measured your conception of God and your expectations from Him with how God reveals Himself to us in His Word? We will not truly know our Lord until we are in heaven, but our life on earth should be a continual growth in the knowledge of God as He truly is. If you are to really know what submission to Christ entails, you must be willing to acce0pt Him as He reveals Himself to us in Scripture-- as Saviour and Lord, as Almighty, Sovereign God. Do you accept what He does in your life, even when it is hard to bear and you can't understand what He is doing? Or do you judge and counsel God on the basis of your human perspective?
· Are you discouraged with the progress in your family relationship? Watch out! That's a sign that you are trusting in yourself and not in God. Confess it to God as sin, get your eyes back on the Lord Jesus Christ, and let Him live His life out through you.
· Is your love relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ growing? If not, perhaps you are not spending enough time with Him in His Word and in prayer and meditation. Or perhaps there is an area in which you have refused or neglected to obey Him?
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Sister Kimberly
Helpmeet to my beloved James
was originally posted on www.followersofthelamb.com (website is not longer available)
Be ye therefore followers of God as dear children: And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savor. Ephesians 5:1,2